Self-derogatory

Describing speech or behavior that belittles or disparages oneself, often indicating a lack of self-esteem, insecurity, or a self-deprecating sense of humor. It involves making negative remarks about one's own abilities, appearance, or character. The intention might vary, sometimes to appear humble, seek reassurance, deflect criticism, or express genuine feelings of inadequacy. While potentially used humorously, excessive self-derogation can signal underlying emotional issues and negatively impact self-perception and interactions with others.

Self-derogatory meaning with examples

• At the job interview, Sarah nervously said, 'I'm probably the least qualified person here,' a clear example of self-derogatory behavior. Her self-doubt undermined her confidence, and likely decreased her chances of a positive impression, which ultimately led to the interviewer asking less questions as the interviewer tried to fill space. She hoped it would come off as modest, but only made her appear less sure of herself.
• During a comedy routine, the comedian made constant jokes about his own clumsiness, such as, 'I’m so bad at dancing, I could trip over a cordless phone,' to evoke laughter from the audience and perhaps to create an easy atmosphere. This form of self-derogation, within the context of comedy, often serves a strategic purpose in engaging the audience. The delivery showed that he's self aware, confident, and in charge of the jokes.
• After a poor performance, the athlete remarked, 'I played horribly; I’m an utter failure!' This self-derogatory comment, while expressing frustration, also suggested a potentially unrealistic level of self-criticism. This immediate negativity, if habitual, could undermine their motivation for future efforts. It would be considered a form of negative self talk, which affects the brain chemistry.
• In social settings, John would often joke, 'Don't ask me for directions; I'm directionally challenged!' This seemingly harmless self-derogatory statement concealed his insecurities about his navigational skills. While appearing lighthearted, it prevented genuine openness and honest communication with the other person. It may act to preempt others from commenting before he can.